This post week’s post I pray will give some insight to everyone, especially to those of us who have children. When it comes to training up a child, there are some things that have to be nonnegotiable. I’ve been learning this the hard way, and I guess am still learning. It’s often difficult for me to tell my children, No. Moms and dads love to please their children and you grandparents can take this to another level! August the eighteenth is my oldest daughter’s birthday and she’ll be ten years old. Emma Grace is daddy’s bundle of joy; God bless her soul. And as her father, I have to instill certain principles into her life preparing her to become a successful young lady. I want Emma Grace and her sister, Ella, to possess the godly character that Jesus has entrusted me to develop in them.
Proverbs 22:6 Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it.
This is one of my favorites Bible verses and I’ll tell you why. I often joke with with parents who come to me for counseling regarding their children that training up a child in the way that they should go is like the Campbell Soup commercial, It’s in there! When we start our children off the right way by teaching them Godly principles. The Bible says that even though they may depart from it, they can return to their teaching because like Campbell Soup, It’s in there. In other words, they have a well in which to draw from and don’t you want to make sure your child’s well is full with the Word of God?
Proverbs 13:24 Whoever spares the rod hates their children, but the one who loves their children is careful to discipline them.
This is another one of my favorite verses but it can be a little touchy for most parents until I walk them through the meaning and purpose of this scripture. I liken the “rod of correction” to those teachable moments we need to take when we find our children being disobedient or getting off track. A parent needs to take the time to teach, instruct and develop the core values between right and wrong. Children need to know that there are consequences for inappropriate behavior. The “do as I say not as I do” approach doesn’t work. Our children catch far more from us than what we teach them. When parents don’t model the behavior they desire from their children and refuse to exact consequences when needed, they become a living contradiction in their child’s eyes. There have been times that I have given my daughters a tap on their hands or bottoms, and trust me the few times that the consequences required this discipline, me being upset with them impacted them more then the tap they received.