Archive from July, 2014
Jul 23, 2014 - Hearing From God, Marriage    No Comments


I bet you’re thinking this post is about telling a great story or maybe hearing one. I know I love to hear a good story. But this post isn’t about the stories we tell others. It’s about the stories we tell ourselves! Oh, the stories we tell ourselves everyday of our lives. The ones we repeat over and over in our heads. It’s like having a needle stuck on a scratched vinyl record. Whoops, did I just date myself by mentioning records? Who plays records nowadays, we’re in the era of CDs people. Actually, if you ask my girls, they’d say CDs are old … “Just down load it or stream it, Dad,” they’d say! When did I get so old? Well, I digress … back to the stories we tell ourselves …

A couple of weeks ago, I had a particular busy day of ministry work. A fellow pastor asked me to make a hospital visit to pray and comfort one of our church members and family. Immediately following that, I had an evening counseling session with a imagecouple for premarital counseling. I had been out shopping, the day before, and found a blue paisley bow tie on sale. So I decided to buy it and add it to my collection … I guess you could say that bow ties are one of my signature looks. My wife, Amy, often teases me because when ever I get something new I want to wear it or use it right away. And, here was my opportunity. So I put on my navy blue pinstriped suit, white shirt and light blue paisley bow tie. I placed a blue silk handkerchief in my suit coat pocket to accent my my bow tie. I looked good; if I do say so myself.

I kissed my wife goodbye and told her that I was leaving for the hospital. Amy lovingly said something to the effect of, “Do you think that maybe you might be just a little over dressed?” Ouch! On the outside, I asked Amy what she meant. But on the inside, this story started inside my head …

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Jul 16, 2014 - Family Matters, Marriage    No Comments


Since last week, when I posted “Anger Mismanagement,” I can’t believe how many times I’ve gotten into conversations with people about anger. I always knew it was a powerful emotion that people struggled with but I had no idea how much until I started researching it and talking to people about it. So what is anger all about anyway? Why is it such a hot topic?


Believe it or not, anger is a God given emotion that can help us navigate through life. This emotion helps us to address threats whether real or perceived. It’s known as the fight or flight mode. I would like to introduce a third response which I gained from being a police officer called- Freeze, police don’t move . I’m just kidding about the “Police, don’t move” part, but many people do freeze by shutting down when they become angry. The long and short of it is, anger causes some kind of reaction in us. The problem is sometimes we allow our emotions to get the best of us

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Most recently I had the awesome privilege of hearing a sermon that dealt with anger. The message covered how some people, when angered, will become “spewers.” I thought that I had a pretty good idea of what the word spew meant, but imageto be quite honest, I had never given much thought to its meaning in regards to anger. So, I looked up the definition of spewing and here’s what I came up with: To send or force out in or as if in a stream; eject forcefully or in large amounts. As I researched the meaning of spewing even further, I kept seeing this definition coming up time and time again: To vomit or otherwise cast out through the mouth. Disgusting, I know! But the point I’m making is that nobody wants to be “spewed” on or even around it. In fact, a spewing person is probably a person that you’ll want to avoid at all cost … whenever possible … as soon as possible.

Now on a personal note, I can recall times that I vomited my anger on my wife and children. This would account for the grimaces on their faces, not to mention the mass exodus which took place soon afterwards. If you ever want to clear a room quickly, invite a spewer. Proverbs 29:11 Fools give full vent to their rage, but the wise bring calm in the end. I can’t begin to tell you how many times I thought that my anger was justified, but only to later discover differently. The Book of Proverbs if filled with wisdom concerning anger. Proverbs 14:12 There is a way that appears to be right, but in the end it leads to death.

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