Jan 15, 2014 - Family Matters    No Comments

STOP COMPARING AND START CARING

During a recent counseling session, I was listening to a couple share some frustration they were feeling towards each other. It was a familiar theme to me and perhaps will be to you. It was the very common, “I do everything and you don’t do anything,” debate. My response, thanks to the Holy Spirit, was we need to stop comparing and start caring.

The next morning I still had this thought circling in my head and I decided to run it past my brother when we went out to breakfast. So I asked him have you ever found yourself, whether on a conscious or unconscious level, comparing things? For example, you’re driving in your car and you happen see another car that peaks your interest and before you realize it you’re thinking about that car in comparison to yours. “Oh yea! he replied, I imagine most people find themselves comparing things … isn’t that human nature?

SO WHY DO WE COMPARE?

Why do we find ourselves operating in this comparing mode in the first place? Some of us compare out of curiosity,image others out of desire, and some of us out our greed to have more.
The Book of Genesis is where I believe this issue with comparing, in an ungodly way, started. Let’s explore how comparing first developed with Adam and his wife Eve, in the garden that God had made just for them. It all comes down to making that Godly decision when faced with choices, despite the desire we all have to compare one thing against another.

GENESIS 2:9 The LORD God made all kinds of trees grow out of the ground–trees that were pleasing to the eye and good for food. In the middle of the garden were the tree of life and the tree of the knowledge of good and evil. God clearly made a distinction among these two trees. The Tree Of Life produced life eternal and The Tree of Knowledge of Good And Evil produced death – eternal separation from God. GENESIS 2:16-17 And the LORD God commanded the man, “You are free to eat from any tree in the garden; but you must not eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil, for when you eat from it you will certainly die.”

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Jan 9, 2014 - Hearing From God    No Comments

GOOD HABITS ARE HARD TO MAKE

Just the other day, I drove my family down to the Canadaguia National Bank to make some transactions. To me this bank is not your everyday banking institution. It truly is a community oriented bank that prides itself on its customer service. In fact the exterior and the interior reminds you of someone’s home and screams, “welcome,” to all who enter. I walked up to the teller’s window and sat down to conduct my business. If you’ve never banked at one of its branches, there are chairs at each teller’s window. Imagine that you don’t have to stand; that’s what I mean about home. No sooner had I completed my transactions, I realized that I needed to speak with a customer service representative regarding my monthly statement. I approached the Branch Managers office and was immediately welcome by her. She told me to make myself comfortable and I did just that. I was so comfortable that I helped myself to a handful of candies from her desk. I told her that a needed to make some changes to my account, and as she was looking up my information on her ciomputer, I asked if she minded if we exchanged business cards. I take every opportunity to share Wade In The Word with as many people as I come in contact with. In fact, that’s the heading on my business cards, “Spread The Word.”

imageOur exchanging of business cards sparked up a conversation about last week’s post on the New Year’s resolutions that people make each year. I ask if she thought that most people kept their resolutions and we both agreed that we didn’t think so. I shared that most people’s New Year’s resolutions center around breaking bad habits. That’s when she told me about STOP, START and CONTINUE. She went on to explain how their branch uses this method to encouraged their employees to STOP what’s not working; START what is; and then CONTINUE it. What an amazing, yet simple, strategy for breaking the current of bad habits. This sparked me to then share,my example of the BAIT, the TRAP and the TRIGGER. And, how easily we can be BAITED into unhealthy behaviors, known as TRIGGERS, in an attempt to get our needs met. We can end up becoming TRAPPED in these behaviors that we thought would give us joy, comfort, peace, friendships, _______, _______, _______ … you can fill in the blanks. We hope for freedom but became enslaved instead. Have you ever attempted to break a bad habit and for some time you were doing well but over time you find yourself right back where you started? We so frequently return to these bad habits because when things start getting too tough for us, we tend to return to our default; old behaviors that trapped us in the first place.

If you have decided to make a New Year’s resolution, to change for the better and to break those patterns that have impacted you negatively, you’re making a wise decision. It’s important for us to give serious thought to what started the bad habit in the first place and center our goals around replacing the bad habit with a good one which will meets our needs in a healthy way. Willpower will aide you in reaching your long term goals, but ultimately stopping bad habits requires a change of heart to break free from the trap. To help you along your way, I’d like to share how you can change those bad habits by developing good habits in their place.

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Jan 1, 2014 - Hearing From God    1 Comment

GOOD HABITS ARE HARD TO MAKE AND BAD HABITS ARE HARD TO BREAK

With each approaching New Year, we should reflect on the events that have occurred in our lives. And if we are true to ourselves we will not single out just one aspect, but we’ll include the good, theimage bad and the ugly. In writing this post, I thought of how much talk there is around these promises we make called New Year’s Resolutions. I don’t know about you but I’ve made my fair share of failed resolutions. So I began to seek the wisdom of The Lord on why many of us fail to keep our New Year Resolutions and what came to me was … good habits are hard to make and bad habits are hard to break. When you think about it a bad habit is a trap that enslaves you. We often don’t even realize when we have taken the bate, been lured in and trapped.

WHAT LURES YOU INTO A TRAP?

In looking for a simple example to convey this message, I was reminded of a trap I use to set as small boy to catch pigeons. I had seen people train pigeons to become carrier pigeons and my bright idea was to do the same. The first thing that I had to do, was build myself a trap. I constructed it out of a small cardboard box with a stick and a string. I baited my trap with dried bread cubes strategically placed along the ground leading into the box. When the trap was set all I had to do was wait it out. Sure enough the neighborhood pigeons flocked to the bread and it wasn’t long before I trapped my first pigeon. The reason that I share this story with you is to point out how simple most traps are and falling into bad habits can be simple too when we fall for the bate like the pigeons.

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