Sep 10, 2014 - Family Matters, Marriage    2 Comments


The demands on a father and mother can become overwhelming at times, so I am starting to take a closer look at what I do well and what needs improving. And It is for this reason that this post has come to pass.

“I am not Superman! I want my true identity back!” I told my daughters one day. I love my little girls with all my heart. It’s just that sometimes the expectations they have of me can be overwhelming at times. Emma, my oldest, has the most imagefascinating, creative spirit that a parent would ever want to see. She has an eye for fashion and a flair for the avant-garde. But when it comes to Emma picking up after herself, she doesn’t know the meaning of the concept! She leaves a wake of disaster behind from her creative projects for mom and dad to clean up after. My youngest is just the opposite. She’s daddy and mommy’s littler helper. But she’s a seven year old bag lady. That’s right, on any given day you’ll find five or six shopping bags, gifts bags or shoes boxes stuffed with her Polly Pockets and Barbie dolls along with their clothing and assorted accessories. And, not to mention, her purse collections all scattered throughout the house. It seems like a never ending battle to get them to do simple things like pick up after themselves or keep their things where they belong. I bet you moms and dads must know what I’m talking about … so how do we meet this challenge of parenting?

We need to teach our children responsibility at an early age and hold them accountable. I know it’s easier said then done and this has been a struggle for me and my wife also. But don’t allow yourself to get trapped into thinking that it is easier to do it yourself then it is to teach your children to do it. Reality is, we’d rather not face our children’s excuses, not to mention the tears that sometime follow their excuses. My oldest is great at deflecting her accountability. For example, I say, “Emma! Pick your clothes up off the floor and put them away.” She then counters with, “But Daddy, Ella has clothes on the floor too, what about hers?” Well before you know it, frustration sets in and I’m raising my voice. And the next thing you know I’m picking up her clothes and putting them away.

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Sep 5, 2014 - Faith    No Comments


I recently had the most amazing conversation with a friend and fellow Christian about how The Lord will give us the desires of our hearts. My friend shared with me how he was trusting The Lord to bless his spouse with a job in the field she had gone back to school for. He admitted to feelings of frustration after watching his wife apply for jobs in her field for years and getting turned down. There is a definite struggle between the flesh and the Spirit whenever we are faced with waiting on The Lord regarding an answer to our prayers.image

I was reminded of the time that Jesus prayed in the Garden of Gethsemane. He brought three friends Peter, James and John along with him to pray. Jesus had walked a stones throw away and prayed. Matthew 26:39 Going a little father, he fell with his face to the ground and prayed, “my Father, if it is possible, may this cup be taken from me. Yet not as I will, but as you will. ” Jesus, being all-knowing, knew of His eminent crucifixion and in His humanity was wishing the cup of death would pass. But ultimately He wanted the will of His father to be done. Further along in Matthew 26:40-41 we read, “Then he returned to his disciples and found them sleeping”. “Couldn’t you men keep watch with me for one hour?” he asked Peter. “Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

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Last week we considered this tough question … Why do we ask God for so much and expect so little? I left you thinking about whether you were more like the faith-filled Elisha or the doubting King Jehoash. Amy and I have been dialoging about this question for weeks now and have seen God give us experiences to what brings this question to life.

When we travel, Amy always wants to get the best accommodations possible and has learned to take advantage of things like hotel reward programs. She’s worked us up to being Marriott Silver Elite members which will often give us an upgraded room and other various perks. As we were heading to Delaware on a trip, Amy confided in me that she’s been trying hard to just leave the accommodations in God’s hands and to let Him work things out for our good … but it’s hard to not try and take over and finagle things herself. What I didn’t know is that Amy was quietly hoping that this hotel was going to up-grade us from a studio to a two-bedroom unit. And, that she was really trying to leave it all in God’s hands.

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