Feb 14, 2015 - Leadership, Marriage    5 Comments


There have been many times in my life that I have asked myself the question, “What am I called to do?”  Well, there is one thing that I know for sure … since I am a man, God called me to be just that – a man.  I will never forget the day, that my wife, Amy, told me that I am the one that sets the pulse for our household.  She asked me if I ever watched long distant running races and went on to explain about “the rabbit.”  The rabbit is a runner who isn’t actually competing but runs out ahead and sets the pace for the runners.  Amy said sometimes she feels like she’s out ahead of the family trying to pull the rest of us along.  She told me that I should be like the rabbit for our family – out in front – setting the pace.  Amy went on to say that when I’m in a funk, as she likes to call it, it can be felt by her and our girls.  It affects the mood, or pace, of the whole family.


At first, this hit me like a ton of bricks.  On the inside I was fuming.  What about you, I thought, why should I have to bare such a heavy responsibility?  Are you kidding me I thought?  That’s when the Holy Spirit step in and said, “she’s right Adam”!  Amy’s words, ” you are the one that sets the pulse for our household”, was really her way of admonishng me in a loving way.  She was reminding me that God has called the men to set the standard for their household and to uphold it.  Men who set the standards for their household protect him and his family.  Initially I didn’t realize the depth of what my wife was sharing with me.  I had mistakenly taken my wife’s comment as an assult upon my character, I was totally wrong.

So when I came across the follwing portion of scripture in the Bible, it all started to come together, the awesome responsibility that men are called to bear.  God spoke to Moses and his brother Aaron on how men to assemble around the tribal standard.


The Hebrew word for standard is degel, it means flag or banner and it speaks as to how Israelites were to organize themselves when encamp around the tabernacle of God. The Israel were made up of twelve imagetribes, each tribe came from the decedents of Jacob’s twelve sons. And each tribe had its own banner, there were four standards representing four divisions that three of each tribe fell under.

Biblical reference says that each tribe (family) were to pitched their tent some distance away from the tabernacle.  At the sounding of a trumpet the community would assemble or break camp.  At the sounding of both silver trumpets everyone must gather around the tabernacle.  But when only one trumpets was sound then only the leaders – the heads of each tribe were to assemble before Moses.  Only the priest were permitted to sound the trumpets, Aaron’s decendants.

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Feb 7, 2015 - Communication    4 Comments


As a young boy growing up in the inner city of Rochester New York, I loved going to the movies.  I remember when downtown Rochester was booming with business.  Movie theaters, with their marquees, were a spectacle of lights.  Back then, there was no such thing as multiplex theaters.  Instead, we had the Capital Theater on E. Main Street and the Coronet Theater on Thurston Road.  On the weekend, for two dollars, you could watch two or three movies. A brief intermission between them gave you just enough time to go get refreshments.  What a deal!

It is funny and amazing how a person’s childhood can shape their adulthood.  I still love to watch movies, just ask my wife, Amy.  If Amy and I are grocery shopping at Wegmans, you’ll find me at the Redbox machine checking out the new arrival. If we happen to be out shopping at Wal-Mart, look for me near their electronics.  Even my daughters know that’s where they can find dad, rummaging through Wal-Mart’s five dollar movie bin hoping to find an inexpensive DVD.  Oh! And did I mention Netflixs?

Well, my newest find is the public library.  Our local library has a good movie selection and it’s free!  I recently I checked out a movie, titled The Words.  Amy and I really enjoyed this movie and our conversation about it the days that followed is what spurred this post.


The Words is a great movie about a young, aspiring writer named Roy Jensen and his girlfriend Dora.  Roy has not been able to get any of his work published and as a result has The-Wordsbeen bankrolled by his father.  Eventually Roy’s dad tells him that he’s getting his last check.  He needs to be realistic and get a job to support himself.  His dad even offers Roy a job working for him but Roy declines because writing is his passion … his dream.  He wants so much for his words to matter.

Roy and his girlfriend marry and take a vacation in Paris to get away.  While shopping at an antique shop Dora sees an old dusty black attaché case and buys it for Roy.

Over time Roy discovers a manuscript inside one of the compartments in the case.  Unbeknownst to Roy, the novel he found was written and lost by a soldier who was stationed in France during the war.  He, too, aspired to be a writer.  Late one night Roy started to read the novel.  Its words seemed to jumped right off the pages.  The words were so captivating  Roy couldn’t put the novel down and he stays up all night reading it.

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Jan 26, 2015 - Faith, Hearing From God    6 Comments


In my youth, I was never much of a reader. But now, in this season of my life, I have found great enjoyment in reading. Whatever I read, whether it is Christian based or not, I always sift it through the Word of God. Recently, I read a book called Fresh Air by Chris Hodges. This book taught me the importance of allowing God, through the Holy Spirit, to breathe fresh air into our lives. In chapter thirteen, titled A Friend Like No Other, Chris Hodges shares the Holy Ghost Story of the “fresh air” that the Holy Spirit breathes into our lives. Chris explains that Peter, being a disciple, was close to Jesus and his friend. Peter should’ve known Jesus better than most. But when Jesus was arrested and on trial before the Jewish leaders, Peter failed to live us to his own words. What I took away from this amazing book is how often we imagethink we know something when in all actuality we don’t. I began thinking, I guess “you don’t know until you know.”

I love asking my children stuff that may seem ridiculous to ask a child – but they offer such great insight. One day I was sitting on the couch with my seven year old daughter, Ella. I wondered if she could shed some light on that thought that had been circling around in my head … “You don’t know until you know.” So I asked Ella what she thought that means. She rolls her eyes at me with her face that says dad don’t you know that I’m just a kid and replies, “Uh, I don’t know.” Well there you go folks, it’s true, “You don’t know until you know.” Now, I didn’t stop there. I went on to ask Ella if she knew how to do a back handspring, something she’s really wanting to be able to do. Ella says, “Oh yes, Daddy, I know that.” But when I asked her to show me, she told me I can’t do it but I can tell you how. She went on to describe, in detail, all the steps to do a back handspring. That got me thinking that knowing and doing are two different things. That’s something we all have to learn and Peter, one of Jesus’ disciples, is a good example of that. He thought he would never leave Jesus or turn away from Him.

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