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Just Do It

This week was quite a hectic one for me.  As a parent I find myself not only trying to keep track of my social calendar but also my children’s calendars.  Today, my wife had an appointment at with her chiropractor.  After a day of running the girls around, I took this as an opportunity to get away with my wife, even if it was for only an hour, and had our oldest daughter stay home with her younger sister.

It felt nice sitting and talking with my wife in the waiting area but soon she was called into the patient area, leaving me alone to my thoughts.   So I decided to use this time to prepare for an up coming sermon I’m giving on Ephesians 6 in a couple of weeks.

Ephesians 6:1-4
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), “that it may go well with you and that you may live long in the land.” Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger,but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.

As I was reading these verses, the thought of slogans began to enter my mind.  The first one that came to my mind was“DO THE RIGHT THING.”  From there, my mind went to the Nike slogan, JUST DO IT.”

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Jun 24, 2015 - Family Matters    No Comments


A Happy Belated Father’s Day to all the faithful dads who read Wade in the Word!

Ephesians 6:1-4

Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.  “Honor your father and mother”—which is the first commandment with a promise— “so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth.”  Fathers, do not exasperate your children; instead, bring them up in the training and instruction of the Lord.


Father’s Day is about honor and family.  You may have heard it said before that people can choose their friends, but they can’t choose their family.  Family is one of the most important relationships that you can have other than having a relationship with Jesus.

A father’s role is so crucial to his family.  Fathers should be the very fabric that holds the family unit together.  They are called to protect,provide and guide their families.  Fathers are to lead their families in the ways of Our Lord Jesus.  Fathers are to take hold of their children’s hands and show them the world.  It is through a father’s love that children get to see and expect what the world around them should be.

I remember when Emma Grace was born and the first time I got to see her up close.  I took hold of her little hand and she would not let go.


Fathers, take hold of the hands of your children and show them the world.  For it is through your lovetraining and discipline that they will try to make sense of the world around them.  Yes!  Fathers who show affection and unconditional love towards their families are teaching their children how to honor their parents.  The Bible makes it perfectly clear that children are to honor their fathers and mothers.  Honoring your parents is the first commandment and is sealed with the promise of a long life that goes well for you.

Dads, at times, your role as a father will be challenged. At times, you may even feel unappreciated.  But, it’s worth it.  Be of good courage for your hard work will make all the difference in the world to your wives and children.  Lead your children well. Don’t provoke them to anger.  And most of all, love your wives sacrificially as Jesus loved the church and gave his life for it.


I’d  like tell you a little story about a unicorn and my oldest daughter, Emma Grace.  Our Emma Grace never sucked her thumb when she was a baby.  Instead she would suck on the sleeves of her pajamas at bedtime.  Mom came up with the idea of putting a baby’s washcloth in Emma’s hand at night.  Emma loved it and we could not get her to go to sleep without her washcloth so we named them night-nights.  Wherever we went I had to bring them with me.  Thankfully there wasn’t just one night-night that she had to have.  She would accept any of the, literally, dozens of them that we had.


As Emma got older, she graduated from her night-nights to a stuffed toy Unicorn.  She was given it as a gift for going to a friend’s birthday party.  Unicorn was made from the same material as a baby’s washcloth.  Emma would not go anywhere without it.  We lost the convenience of just grabbing any old night-night.  We had to keep track of this unicorn everywhere we went.

One night, when Emma Grace was about 4 years old, we were away on a business trip.  We went shopping at a mall about a half-hour from our hotel.  When we got back to the hotel, we could not find Unicorn.  I realized we must have left her at the last store we went to.   I was definitely not looking forward to driving all the way back to this mall but Unicorn was a member of our family.

I joked with Amy and asked her if I should call the police in file a missing Unicorn Report.  With the prospect of Emma Grace being heartbroken for her unicorn, Amy didn’t really find that funny at the time.  So I guessed you figured it out … daddy drove all the way back to the mall.  I retraced every step for over an hour until I found Unicorn in the lady’s dressing room on the bench looking up at me.  What a relief!

When I finally got back to the hotel and returned Unicorn to Emma Grace, dad was a hero.  Not only did I want Emma Grace to have her beloved Unicorn, but I wanted her to know that daddy loves her so much that he will protect, provide and guide her through life.  When fathers hold their children’s hands they not only show them the world, they make the world safe and a better place.  Even though those little hands grow, your children will always need the wisdom and guidance of their father, both their earthly father and their Heavenly Father.

Sep 10, 2014 - Family Matters, Marriage    2 Comments


The demands on a father and mother can become overwhelming at times, so I am starting to take a closer look at what I do well and what needs improving. And It is for this reason that this post has come to pass.

“I am not Superman! I want my true identity back!” I told my daughters one day. I love my little girls with all my heart. It’s just that sometimes the expectations they have of me can be overwhelming at times. Emma, my oldest, has the most imagefascinating, creative spirit that a parent would ever want to see. She has an eye for fashion and a flair for the avant-garde. But when it comes to Emma picking up after herself, she doesn’t know the meaning of the concept! She leaves a wake of disaster behind from her creative projects for mom and dad to clean up after. My youngest is just the opposite. She’s daddy and mommy’s littler helper. But she’s a seven year old bag lady. That’s right, on any given day you’ll find five or six shopping bags, gifts bags or shoes boxes stuffed with her Polly Pockets and Barbie dolls along with their clothing and assorted accessories. And, not to mention, her purse collections all scattered throughout the house. It seems like a never ending battle to get them to do simple things like pick up after themselves or keep their things where they belong. I bet you moms and dads must know what I’m talking about … so how do we meet this challenge of parenting?

We need to teach our children responsibility at an early age and hold them accountable. I know it’s easier said then done and this has been a struggle for me and my wife also. But don’t allow yourself to get trapped into thinking that it is easier to do it yourself then it is to teach your children to do it. Reality is, we’d rather not face our children’s excuses, not to mention the tears that sometime follow their excuses. My oldest is great at deflecting her accountability. For example, I say, “Emma! Pick your clothes up off the floor and put them away.” She then counters with, “But Daddy, Ella has clothes on the floor too, what about hers?” Well before you know it, frustration sets in and I’m raising my voice. And the next thing you know I’m picking up her clothes and putting them away.

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