Dec 13, 2014 - Hearing From God    11 Comments


Misery loves company; but you don’t have to be its companion. Ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut. No matter what you do, you just can’t seem to dig or pull yourself out of it. I equate this feeling to my experiences in sailing. We call it the doldrums. It’s a nautical term for calm periods when the winds disappear altogether, trapping sail-powered boats for periods of days or weeks. I remember sailing with friends on Lake Ontario. We’d be sailing along at seventeen knots feeling the wind against our faces. What an exhilarating feeling! Then out of nowhere you hit this calm where there isn’t even the slightest hint of a breeze. You’re dead in the water with not even a wave in sight … the doldrums. If we didn’t have an onboard motor, as a backup power source, we could be stuck for hours awaitinimageg the wind to pick up or for someone to give us a tow.

This idea of misery loves company makes me want to laugh at myself. Because without even realizing it up until now, when I think back to my sailing days when we hit those doldrums, I immediately looked around to see if others were in our same predicament … as if this would somehow bring me some comfort in knowing that I was not alone. So I guess it is true what they say … Misery loves company!

I got thinking about this when someone I’ve been counseling was having a hard time with her teenage son. She said she felt like she was in a rut and was at wits end with the stress and drama her son seemed to be causing. I wanted to encourage her not to let the son’s misery become hers. Then it came to me, misery can become our backup power source. But, not to bail them out of their condition, but to keep them in it.


So I meditated and sought The Lord on how we as Christians can overcome the pitfalls of misery. Then it occurred to me that poor time management has a lot to do with why people fine themselves commiserating. Here’s what Esephesians 5:15-20 has to say about time.

Be very careful, then, how you live—not as unwise but as wise, making the most of every opportunity, because the days are evil. Therefore do not be foolish, but understand what the Lord’s will is. Do not get drunk on wine,which leads to debauchery. Instead, be filled with the Spirit, speaking to one another with psalms, hymns, and songs from the Spirit. Sing and make music from your heart to the Lord, always giving thanks to God the Father for everything, in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ.


What Paul is saying to the church in Ephesus is take heed, be alert, be vigilant. In other words, be on guard with how you spend your time and how you live your life. Use wisdom to make the best use of your time. When you find yourself commiserating, ask yourself Is the best use of my time? Remember to redeem the times- make the best of every opportunity. Why? Because, as Paul says, the days we live in are evil. Interestingly enough, the Hebrew word for evil means misery. Paul takes it even a step further by saying, don’t be unwise. Instead, understand what God’s will is for you. It is never God’s will for us to be miserable … live in misery or spread misery.

The opposite of misery is JOY and that’s how we overcome the pitfalls of misery. Being filled with the Spirit produces the fruit of the Spirit: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control. It is the Spirit that causes us to speak encouraging words to each other and to break forth in songs and hymns as we make a joyful sound unto The Lord. No matter what we’re faced with, if we search long enough and hard enough, we can always find a reason to give God thanks. For without Him, we can do nothing. John 15:5 I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing. Our power source is The Lord Jesus.


Jesus handled misery through His obedience to God, The Father, even unto the death on a cross.

Hebrews 12:2-3 Fixing our eyes on Jesus, the pioneer and perfecter of faith. For the joy set before him he endured the cross, scorning its shame, and sat down at the right hand of the throne of God. Consider him who endured such opposition from sinners, so that you will not grow weary and lose heart.

I hope by now you’ve captured the root cause as to why misery loves company. It’s the condition of ones own heart. We think that things are only affecting us emotionally when in fact we are being infected spiritually. When it comes right down to it, it always involves the decision we make when it comes to being miserable. We can choose to be its companion or not to be its companion. Jesus chose always to do the will of God who sent Him to redeem us. Yes! Jesus felt the presence of evil – misery – but instead of drawing upon a weaker power source, the flesh, He drew upon the ultimate power source — Almighty God. Christians, we are not left POWERLESS or COMFORTLESS because Jesus sent us His Holy Spirit to comfort us, guide us and strengthen us … always! Trust in The Lord and He will be your faithful companion.



  • “Misery loves company” has long tripped me out. Is it a statememt of selfishness i.e. Is it wanting other miserable peeps around me so I can see I’m not a solo failure at something OR does it mean that when we are miserable , we’d love some company to help us out of misery.? OR does it mean us miserable people seek out miserable people!

    Even what does Romans 12:15 mean?

    Is emotional contagion that infectious?

  • All your questions are great because they invoke self-examination of ones own heart. Romans 12:15 is so powerful because we are encouraged to have compassion on others, less we find ourselves in the same situation.

  • Amen bro! We have a choice either to live for Him in His spirit or in our selves, which is a no good thing. In all things be content is a misery buster. How can you be miserable when your perspective is right. What do we deserve! H e double two sticks. What do we have in Him! Eternal bliss. How can one be miserable when we know that!
    Great study bro!!

  • “…the idea that you ‘catch’ emotions like you catch the flu is seductively simple and parsimonious.” was one of the outcome statements in a study of does misery love company. Thank God that while He made us interdependent, He also gave us choice (as the Brother wrote above)and faith to choose Him and His joy and His way despite the what we face in others.

  • Amen, may the God of comfort, Joy, peace and SALVATION bring these to all this Christmas and throughout the New Year.

  • Thanks Dennis, let us be prayerful that Christians take hold of all the promises of God, rejoicing in their salvation always regardless of their circumstances. Amen

  • Amen!

  • Happy birthday Mr. Wade. Blessings to you, your family and your ministry. May the Spirit of the Most High God be the wind and the back up power source as you sail through this life. Remember, a boat anchored in the harbor does not need direction. So, pull it up and see where He will take you.

  • Billy, Happy birthday you ole geezer! Have a great one my brother! You do have a precious wife! We don’t deserve them that’s for sure.

  • Happy bday Billy! Blessings and Prayers!

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