Have you ever had and argument with your spouse and found yourself going tit-for-tat? Well I have found myself doing just that on many occasions especially doing the earlier stages of my marriage. Have you ever wondered where this phrase tit-for-tat came from? Well I researched it and here’s a definition that I came across: The infliction of an injury or insult in return for one that one has suffered. Matter of fact I’ll share this sentence which was given as an example of what takes place … “The conflict staggered on with tit-for-tat assassinations.” Can you imagine spouses intentionally committing verbal assassinations? No! Most often I don’t even think the husband or the wife are consciously aware of what they are doing to each other. When I look at synonyms for tit-for-tat like retaliation, reprisal, counterattack, and comeback it got me thinking how detrimental going tit-for-tat can be.
I can’t believe it’s been five months since I started this blog and I have to thank all of you who have prayed for me and supported me in this new endeavor! I am so grateful to have my wife Amy’s encouragement and the encouragement of friends and family. I have always liked to do what I call “field research” whenever God would give me a message. By “field research” I mean asking different people I would come in contact with what they thought about the topic I was researching. Now that I am blogging part of my research has been reading other people’s blogs. This is how I came across Mark Miller’s book The Heart Of Leadership and was invited to read it and post a review on my blog. Early on in my Christian walk with Jesus, I learned to sift everything I hear, read or learn through the word of God. This allows me to discern what’s good and what’s not. This gives me the liberty to read books like, The Heart of Leadership, which is not been written from a Christian perspective and still find wisdom and truth because the ideas in Miller’s book are not contrary to Biblical principles. In fact, the book is full of them. I really enjoyed reading this book and am more then happy to share the wisdom and knowledge that this book has to offer. This book reminded me of Charles Dickens’ A Christmas Carol in how it develops and ends. Ebenezer Scrooge is visited by the three ghosts of Christmas: the ghost of Christmas past, the ghost of Christmas present and the ghost of Christmas future. Don’t get me wrong, the main character Blake, in The Heart Of Leadership, is by no means a scrooge. What Miller captures is how Blake’s heart is changed from its past state, to his present state, leading to a possible future. Blake has an interview with his boss and hopes that it will lead to a promotion. During his interview, he learns that he is a hardworking, talented individual who has contributed much to the company. But, he lacks the leadership abilities to be promoted to team leader. Blake can’t quite understand why his skills have not qualified him for team leader, especially since he’d been given an outstanding performance evaluation. Blake becomes even more concerned when He is told that there is just “something missing.” The only answer Blake is given is that leaders are different and that you know one when you see one … and he wasn’t one. Blake’s frustration leads him to call upon and seek the counsel of an old friend and mentor for help. It is through the help of this friend that Blake’s heart is changed as he encounters various people he is sent to meet. Read more »
Growing up I never thought, nor did I ever have any reasons to believe, that someday I would have a career in law enforcement and work as a police officer for over twenty years. But more than that, I never could have fathomed that I would some day become a pastor. Now what really blows my mind is how God used the work I was doing as a police officer to prepare me for pastoral work.
Looking back, I knew at an early age I liked being around people. But interestingly enough I was very shy growing up — what a contradiction. A shy person such as myself becoming a police officer … how’s that going to work out for me? Well, just great all praise to Jesus who was with me every step of the way.
I didn’t know it then but my career as a police officer was preparing me for life in the ministry. Law enforcement taught me a lot about people. As a police officer you are guaranteed to meet people from just about every walk of life. Do you want to know why? Because people are people and when they are in trouble, they call for help. And who do they call? The police! Is your house on fire — call the police. Is your basement flooding — call the police. Has your neighbor’s dog chased your cat up a tree — call the police. You get the picture. And yes, the police will respond. I know this from first hand experience.