Oct 29, 2013 - Family Matters    2 Comments


The comments from last week’s post, Jesus Is A Friend That’s Closer Than A Brother, were amazing. I love when you, as readers, make comments because the comments you post cause me to reflect more on God’s Word. As I am reflecting, the Holy Spirit gives me new insights to write about … so thank you! Last week’s comments got me thinking about what causes friendships to develop. Sometimes there is a natural progression of stages that occur before true friendships develop into the relationships God intended. Other times there is an immediate connection that defies these stages and a life long friendship forms almost instantaneously. No matter how friendships occur, at the heart of it all is the desire to be a friend and to have a friend. As one reader commented, he believes that we all desire to approach people just like that little child who says, “Would you like to be my friend?” But, many of us adults have allowed past pain and hurt to prevent us from being open enough to take that risk. Oh, how wonderful it would be if we allowed ourselves to develop and grow true friendships like my little Ella mentioned in last week’s post. Because … without that leap of faith you could be missing out on the friendship of a lifetime.

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Oct 23, 2013 - Family Matters    12 Comments


Have you ever had a thought just pop into your head that seemingly crops up out of nowhere? Well that is what happened to me. My oldest daughter, Emma Grace, observed me saying hello to a man while at her sister’s gymnastics lesson. When Emma saw me greet him she asked, “Is that your friend, daddy?” No, I told her I just met him here last week. “Then he’s your friend,” Emma Grace replied. Now I’m starting to get a little bit frustrated with my daughter’s persistence. That’s when the thought popped into my head … friend or associate – what’s the difference? Read more »

Oct 15, 2013 - Marriage    6 Comments


Last week’s post about promises got me thinking about commitment … and how important it is when it comes to keeping our promises. Since God has shown His commitment to us by being faithful, trustworthy and loving, shouldn’t we also do likewise one to another? God committed His one and only Son Jesus to die on a cross for our sins so that we may have eternal life. Jesus showed his commitment to God the father by obeying God even to his death on the cross. In the garden of Gethsemane Jesus prayed for God’s will to be done. Matthew 26:39 He went on a little farther and bowed with his face to the ground, praying, “My Father! If it is possible, let this cup of suffering be taken away from me. Yet I want your will to be done, not mine.” Jesus paid the ultimate price for his commitment to God through the shedding of his blood and the death on the cross. That’s commitment! Have you ever given any thought to a commitment that you would be willing to die for?

I began thinking about marriage and commitment. As a Biblical Counselor, I do a lot of pre-marital and marital counseling. A theme I hear often is a lack of trust. In today’s fast pace world people are seeking instant gratification, wanting results with no work, and imagegaining benefits with no sacrifice. We jump into relationships too quickly and jump ahead of the stages God wants us to go through to build a healthy foundation for marriage. Not only does “doing relationships our way” typically end in a failed relationship but the baggage we collect as a result often affects our marriage when we finally do get it right. One of the biggest pieces of baggage people bring into a marriage is trust issues.

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