Recently, a friend of mine came over to my house the other day and asked me if he could borrow my projector for a presentation he was giving at work. It was his visit that got me to thinking about friendship. When my daughters we small, they loved these toys called “FurReal Friends.”  They were little stuffed animals with mechanical bodies that mimicked the sounds and movements of a real animal.  Amy and I have been suckered in to buying several of these over the years.  We have a FurReal cat, panda, polar bear, and a couple of FurReal dogs!  I guess that’s why when I got thinking about friendship, my mind went to this idea of, not FurReal Friends but ForReal friends.

In case you haven’t a clue about what I’m talking about, here are a couple of examples that may help you understand what I mean when I say FOR-REAL FRIENDS.  There are people who are “FAIR WEATHER FRIENDS” and then there are people who are “YOU SCRATCH MY BACK AND I’LL SCRATCH YOUR BACK FRIENDS.”

FAIR WEATHER FRIENDS are those people who say that they are your friend but their friendship is shallow.  It’s without any depth to it because it is based on just the right conditions… their conditions. Conditions that satisfy their needs only.  So long as you meet the conditions of what they think the relationship should be, they’ll remain your friend. These types of people are concerned mostly about themselves. The slightest disagreement will be treated as a change in the temperature of the weather and they are ready to end their friend with you.  People who lack self-esteem quickly fall into this type of relationship.

The YOU SCRATCH MY BACK AND I’LL SCRATCH YOUR BACK FRIENDS are always looking at what’s in it for me.  These relationships are built on each party’s ability to mutually use each other.  These friendships are often full of friction because one of them usually gets tired of being used by the other.  One of them will have figured out that they are the one who has been getting the short end of the stick most of the time.  There is no true friendship when the friendship is based on what someone can or will do for us.


These relationships that I’ve mentioned are easy to get into but, not always so easy to break free from.  They can become a vicious cycle without the help of God.  Ask me how do I know … Been There And Done That. I imageregrettably admit that I have been on both the receiving end and giving end of these types of friendships.  At the time I didn’t realize what they were. But when the Lord revealed to me where I was and where I was headed, I knew that the relationship had to end.  Nevertheless, I was caught up in this vicious cycle.  Like a vortex, the more you struggle to set yourself free the more you get sucked back in.  It wasn’t until I cried out to the Lord for His help that I was set free.

Psalm 107:2 Let the redeemed of the Lord tell their story-those he redeemed from the hand of the foe, those he gathered from the lands, from east and west, from north and south.

Psalm 107:6 Then they cried out to the lord in their trouble, and he delivered then from their stress.

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Dec 19, 2015 - Faith, Spread The Word    5 Comments

Happy Birthday, Billy!

Today, December 19th, is Billy’s birthday!

I am so thankful to the Lord for allowing my husband to see another birthday. When I think back over the past year and all the people Billy has helped, prayed for, ministered to, encouraged, cried with, encouraged, challenged, spoke to when no one else did, put before himself, not gave up on, loved sacrificially … the word that comes to mind is FAITHFUL. Billy truly is a FAITHFUL man of God!

Revelation 20:10 says Be faithful until death and I will give you the crown of life.

I pray that God gives Billy many years of life and good health on this Earth and that he will continue to be FAITHFUL unto the Lord all the days of his life! May his example be one to follow and I hope this simple post encourages you to walk with God faithfully today and always.

God is faithful

I know it would mean a lot to him to hear from all of you FAITHFUL Wade in the Word readers by way of a birthday wish!


My Pastor gave a wonderful sermon on Sunday titled “THANKS-LIVING.”  I was so impress by the subject matter that I thought that I would share some of his message with you.  As Christians our lives should reflect the life of Jesus.  Jesus always gave thanks to God, the Father, for everything.  Thanks, not only in words, but in deeds. When you think about it, how can you truly be thankful when your life does not reflect the attitude of you words.  Our hearts will always give us away concerning how we live out our lives.


This Thanksgiving, before you doing any eating or celebrating, earnestly take the time to think about what you are truly thankful for … then ask yourself if your life matches up with your words.  Thanksgiving should not just be a date on the calendar that we celebrate once a year. Thanksgiving is the condition of your heart that needs to be examined throughout the year.

I was so touched by the message I heard about “Thanks-Living” and wanted to get into the Scriptures myself in search of a Word from the Lord to share.  I was sitting in Panera with my wife and youngest daughter.  My wife was actuallyimage editing the post I was going to share this week but I told her to hold off because I wanted to do a Thanksgiving post.  I had an idea of a Scripture I was going to use but then the Lord took me to the Book of Psalms.  As I was reading Psalm 107, I was so moved by the words I knew this is what I wanted to share.  This portion of Scripture gives such a wonderful example of how God’s people gave Him thanks.  The people did not give thanks until they had reflected on the state of drifting from God.  It was not until then that they cried out for God’s help and He alone delivered them when they could not deliver themselves.  As you read this portion of Psalms, do you see yourself?  Has God been so good … so faithful … so loving … that you would cry out not just with Thanksgiving but Thanks-Living?

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